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50 Cent's ex love, Daphne Joy, shows off her curves post baby as she hangs with bachlorette group in Las Vegas at the Daylight pool at Mandalay Bay. The former video star had all eyes on her as she wore a colorful bikini while relaxing with the group at their vip cabana at the new pool.

This delightful lil donk belongs to the former flame of a famous rapper who only recently bore his child but is already back to bikini banger shape. The ex-boo had her fun bags and booty all on blizzy during a friends’ recent bachelorette festivities in Las Vegas.

Do you recognize the rump?

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Just Gotta Make It: 10 Artists Who Completely Changed Their Sound (And Look) To Get Put On

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Bet you didn’t know Katy Perry used to do gospel…and remember when Pink was black (kidding!)?

Too Real For R&B? August Alsina SPAZZES On 106 & Park Host For Asking About Trey Songz Beef

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Rising R&B star August Alsina proved that he’s the trillest (or rudest) crooner in the game when he spazzed on 106 & Park host Keshia Chante for asking about his beef with Trey Songz. Whether BET told her to ask the question against August’s wishes, we’re not sure, but it provided the most talked-about 106 & Park moment since the classic #AskDraya disaster.

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Hit the jump for the best reactions to August Alsina’s 106 & Park spazz-out.

Sister Knows Best: Kimmy Cakes Warns Khloe About Her Relationship With Boo Thang French Montana

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This is the second warning Khloe has gotten about her new boo. Maybe she should listen.

Kim Warns Khloe About Relationship With French Montana

After her disastrous relationship with Lamar “light it up” Odom, Khloe may need to take it slow.

According to Radar Online:

Khloe Kardashian is not even divorced from Lamar Odom yet and RadarOnline.com has exclusively learned that her sister Kim is warning her about her new relationship with rapper French Montana.

The 29-year-old reality star can’t seem to stay away from the singer, but her close-knit family is not standing behind her this time.

“Kim is telling Khloe that she should be really careful with French after everything she just went through with Lamar,” a source close to the reality star told Radar.

“He’s got a lot of family drama that Khloe could get dragged into and Kim doesn’t want her to have a difficult romance this time.”

As Kim prepares to walk down the aisle with Kanye West, the source said she has been bragging that her relationship is more stable than Khloe’s could ever be.

“Kim has said that Kanye doesn’t have any family problems or past relationships that hold him back from completely loving her and so that’s what she wants for Khloe. She wants to see her sister happy and she’s worried that French isn’t going to be able to fully commit to her sister. But the comparison irritates Khloe.”

While the Keeping Up with the Kardashians family seems to have embraced French as Khloe is seen packing on the PDA with him, the source said Kim isn’t her biggest cheerleader.

“Kim just hasn’t been as supportive as Khloe would have liked. She’s telling her to take things slowly and saying that French might not be the one for her.”

Do you agree with Kim?

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Hide Ya Kids: Florida Teacher Arrested For Chopping Down 17-Year-Old Boy Multiple Times Before Aborting His Baby

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She just couldn’t stay away from the underage peen.

Teacher Arrested For Having Sex With Student

And didn’t even use a condom?! SMH…

According to The Tampa Tribune:

A 29-year-old Polk County teacher was arrested Monday night on charges of having sex with a 17-year-old student during a four-month romance that involved a pregnancy and abortion, Lakeland police said.

Jennifer Christine Fichter, an English teacher at Central Florida Aerospace Academy, told the boy’s mother that she was in love with her son and admitted to several sexual encounters, police said.

The relationship began in November and the sex occurred during early morning hours in Fichter’s Toyota pickup truck, according to a police affidavit.

The teen told detectives he and the teacher met for sex three times in the parking lot of a Lakeland apartment complex and three times at a location off New Tampa Highway. He also said they had sex four times outside the city in Polk and Hillsborough, and those incidents are under investigation in those counties, Lakeland police said.

Fichter also said she was in love with the student, had sex with him 20 to 30 times, wanted to maintain the relationship and did not regret her actions, according the affidavit.

Fichter faces six counts of unlawful sexual activity with a minor. She was arrested at her Davenport home and booked at the Polk County Jail.

We know teaching is a hard job (no pun intended), but these cradle-robbers must be some of the loneliest hoes walkin’ God’s green Earth if they have to resort to teen peen!

Get Well Soon: Miley Cyrus Hospitalized For Severe Allergic Reaction To Antibiotics

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She’s got to be more careful about what she puts in her mouth…

Miley Cyrus Hospitalized After Allergic Reaction To Antibiotics

Hopefully, Miley will be able to “twerk” it off.

According to US Weekly:

Miley Cyrus’ bad month just keeps getting worse. The “Wrecking Ball” singer, 21, was hospitalized on Tuesday, April 15, because of a severe allergic reaction to some antibiotics she was taking, a press release stated.

The release — from Kansas City’s Sprint Center, where Cyrus was supposed to perform her Bangerz tour show on Tuesday night — said that the pop star had been “placed on medical rest by her doctors” and would not be able to go on as scheduled.

Cyrus herself tweeted a message to fans from her hospital bed, apologizing for the canceled concert. “Kansas I promise I’m as heartbroken as you are. I wanted to badly 2 b there 2night,” she wrote. “Not being with yall makes me feel s—tier than I already do.”

A follow-up tweet included a photo of the singer in a hospital gown, with a toy octopus partially covering her face. “Mr. Octopussy & some amazing Drs are taking good care of me,” she wrote alongside the pic.

Cyrus has been under the weather for a few days now. On Monday, April 14, she tweeted, “I woke up like disssss #SICK,” followed by a message several hours later reading, “Fever fever go away.” She has also been dealing with the grief of losing her beloved dog Floyd on April 1.

Miley sucks random people’s g-string, who knows what she was really on antibiotics for.

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Florida Crazies: Teacher Fired After Ordering Boys To Attack Classmate And “Teach Him A Lesson”

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Only in Florida.

Teacher Fired After Ordering Boys To Attack Classmate

Parents expected her to educate and guide their kids and she’s making them fight. What type of isht is that?

According to Raw Story:

A Florida teacher officially lost her job last week after encouraging six boys to attack a classmate.

The seventh grader, identified as Radravious Williams, allegedly threatened teacher Dru Dehart in March 2013.

The teacher then told a group of boys to beat up the boy and “teach him a lesson.”

The boys, ages 11 to 15, were caught hitting and kicking their classmate on surveillance video.

The victim said he told Dehart he “wished he could curse out teachers someday,” and his mother described the attack.

“They picked him up, carried him, holding him by the neck, took him down to her classroom and forcibly made him apologize to her,” said Latasha Darrisaw, the boy’s mother. “Her remarks to him were, ‘I’ve got my eighth-grade boys on you; you’re not so tough now.”

Dehart was reassigned shortly after the attack, and the St. Lucie County school board fired her Thursday.

“It’s like a nightmare,” said the victim’s mother, Latasha Darrisaw, “He’s not the same. He’s had some sleepless nights.”

She caused so much pain for that little boy…somebody needs to beat the isht out of her.

Racist Or Nah? Singer Sky Ferreira Accused Of “Exploiting The Ghetto” & Using Black People As Props In New Music Video

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Sky Ferreira Accused Of Racism Against Black People Over New Video

Singer and song writer Sky Ferreira is in the hot seat following the release of her latest music video which features African-American back up dancers and takes place in Compton, CA. Fans lashed out shortly following the video’s release accusing Sky of being racist against black people.

via The Guardian

Singer Sky Ferreira has been accused of racism following the release of her new video for the single I Blame Myself. Responding to the allegations with a lengthy Facebook post, Ferreira has said that she felt “insulted” by the charges.

In the video, the singer appears as a kind of gang leader, called up to settle a dispute.  She’s then pictured dancing with her black male crew, and is arrested and interrogated.

“I’m tired of seeing black people used as props,” one person wrote on Facebook, while another tweeted: “a #racist mess. She, white woman, dances in Compton in front of #POC [people of colour]“. Other comments included “Just because racism isn’t intentional or blatant doesn’t mean it’s not racism”, and “these actors BECAUSE of their skin color are automatically reduced to the neighborhood setting you shot this video in”.

Sky took to her Facebook page to respond to the backlash shortly after, saying she was appalled at being called a racist when she has African-American family members.

“Nothing upsets me more than being called racist because that is one of the most hateful things anyone can be. Not only do I find it insulting towards myself but I also feel insulted for the actors & dancers & my family in the video. No, I did not use black back-up dancers as “props”.

I never have and never will look at any human being as a prop. That’s disgusting.”

Ferreira then goes onto question whether or not the performers would be considered as “props” if they were white, and states that she had auditioned dancers of “all races” but chose the most skilled performers. She concludes her post by outlining how her video was inspired by 90s hip-hop and Michael Jackson:

“I know that you have to be socially aware & mindful of others but when I look at this video I don’t see race as a issue. Stop trying to search for something that isn’t there. Comments like “rich little white girl exploiting the black people & the ghetto” … I never exploited anyone & I don’t use people in any shape or form.

My brother is half black. My cousins are black. My family is Latina & Native American. Some of my family is in the video. I wasn’t raised in a “white” house hold & I’m not little & I have financially supported myself since I was 15 years old. I’m a woman, not a f*****g little girl. Because I have pale skin & green eyes doesn’t mean I was raised in Beverly Hills and have Swedish film investor parents or whatever some have created in their minds. Would you feel more at ease if I danced with a bunch [of] blond white boys at a mall? Should I consciously only cast white dancers for now on? If I’m racist does that mean you’re pro-segregation?! I’m from LA & shot the video there. I referenced 90s hip-hop videos and Michael Jackson because both of those things inspire me & played a big part of my childhood.”

You can check out the video below and then let us know in the comments section: Do you find the video offensive or racist?


Shots Fired: Kelis Slams Ex-Husband Nas In New Interview And Says She Doesn’t Listen To His Music

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“I hate you so much right now!”

Kelis Says She Doesn’t Listen to Nas’ Music In New Interview

In a recent interview with the New York Times Magazine, the “Bossy” singer spills the beans on her messy divorce with rapper Nas as well as what she thinks of his infamous album cover featuring a part of her wedding dress…

New York Times: Your ex-husband, the rapper Nas, put your wedding dress on his album cover. Why did he still have the dress?
Kelis: It’s not even the dress. The joke behind that is that it’s the slip to the petticoat to my dress. I think when I moved out I just left it. That’s all he had, poor thing.

NY: Did you know that was coming? He gave me a heads-up like two days before it was released.Do you know why?
Kelis: All kinds of ideas of why, but I don’t really care.

NY: But it brought up a bunch of stuff you were probably hoping was in the past.
Kelis: Maybe for others, but not for me. I don’t really listen to his music anyway.

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Life might be good for Nas but it sure still seems empty without Kelis. Do you think the couple have fully moved on from one another or still just as bitter as before?

Dear Bossip: I Was Dating A Great Guy But He Died In A Car Accident & Now My Ex Wants To Reconnect

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Dear Bossip,

I’m 27-years old and I have been in a three year on again off again relationship with a 43-year old man.

We have two kids together and our recent break up lasted a year. I was ready to move and found another guy and we had a child together. We were happy until he lost his life in a car accident. In which we were all involved, but everyone escaped with our lives except him.

So, some time has passed and my ex-boyfriend starts finding family members of mine and reaches out to me. I am in a vulnerable state. I really cared about my boyfriend who died, however, I still also have feelings for my ex. I want companionship, but don’t know if I should entertain the thought of picking back up with him. And, I honestly don’t know if he will accept the child I have with the deceased boyfriend. Please help me make sense of things. – Confused Tears

Dear Ms. Confused Tears,

I’m sorry for the loss of your boyfriend who died in the car accident. I’m sure that is traumatizing as everyone else managed to get out with your lives, but your boyfriend lost his.

You didn’t mention how long ago the accident occurred, however, I sense you are still mourning the loss. And, now that your ex-boyfriend has reemerged it has complicated things because you say you want companionship.

Well, I’m at a loss because if you and your ex have been in an on again off again relationship for three years, and you have two children together, and when you broke up you met another man and had another child by him, and now your ex is reaching out to family members of yours to contact you, then, why didn’t he know where you were, or how to contact you directly especially if you have two children together? Was the relationship abusive, so, therefore you went into hiding from him? Did he not remain active in their lives, and you just moved on hoping you would rid him out of your life?

There are so many unsaid things that I’m not sure of how to answer this letter. However, I do know that you should be in therapy, and you should speak with someone who can help you with the trauma you experienced over the loss of your boyfriend, as well as how to cope and deal with the pain and grief. The companionship you are seeking is a result of the loss you experienced and you want someone to fill that void. And, if your previous relationship with your ex wasn’t healthy, or productive, then making a decision to go back will only prove to be unhealthy and unproductive.

Yes, I know it seems convenient to reconnect with someone from your past, and someone you are familiar with. You don’t want to be alone at this time, so you resort back to old behaviors, and things that are familiar. That is a big mistake. Going back to something that wasn’t healthy, or you and he were fighting constantly, and it was not a good environment for you and your children will only produce a disastrous relationship for the both of you, and all those involved. The grief and pain has clouded your judgment. You fear being alone, and you don’t know how you’re going to care for your children without a man. You want someone to hold you, love you, and be there for you. Now that your ex has resurfaced it has you confused about your feelings and what to do.

However, you must think of your well-being, and that of your children. Will reconnecting with him only reproduce the very reason you left? What has changed? Has he changed? What will be different this time around?

I feel you should find a spiritual outlet such as a church, or group where you can work on you. Work on your feelings, emotions, and mental well-being. You should also find a counselor or professional therapist to talk about your grief, and pain. Finally, spend this time with loved ones such as family, friends, and your children. Surround yourself with those who love you, and can be support systems for you. Yes, I know being alone is hard, but you need this time to heal instead of jumping back into another relationship, especially with an ex and it wasn’t healthy. You need the time to work on you, discover who you are, what you want, and what you need. – Terrance Dean

Hey Bossip Fam, what do you think?

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Coupled Up: Khloe Money Kardashian And New Boo Frenchie Poo Montana Catch A Flight! [Video]

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Khloe Kardashian and her rumored new boyfriend French Montana take their romance on the road as they jet out of LAX Airport together late Wednesday night.  Khloe kept her head down and wore a pair of sunglasses, while French surrounded himself with his entourage and covered his face under a hoodie.

Damn, this relationship is moving along the express track! New rumored couple Khloe Kardashian and French Montana were spotted catching a flight together out of LAX Wednesday.

Khloe Kardashian Catches A Flight With Rumored New Boyfriend French Montana

Khloe Kardashian and her rumored new boyfriend French Montana take their romance on the road as they jet out of LAX Airport together late Wednesday night. Khloe kept her head down and wore a pair of sunglasses, while French surrounded himself with his entourage and covered his face under a hoodie.

French tried to play it incognegro… Not sure why since he’s been photographed with Khloe almost every day for the last two weeks. Shoulda asked Diddy to let you hold the G5 player! Sorry but this is kind of ridiculous.

Where is Matt Kemp these days?

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Epic Fail: Man Taking Selfie Near Train Tracks Gets Kicked In The Head By Conductor [Video]

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Ain’t that a kick in the head?

Man Taking Selfie Near Train Tracks Gets Kicked In The Head

Via HuffPo reports:

An April 15 YouTube entry purports to show a man taking a video selfie near train tracks — and paying the price.

User Jared Michael posted the video with the description, “I tried to take a selfie while a train passed a ‘safe’ distance behind. I guess I was still too close and got kicked in the head. I messed up.”

Many commenters tell Michael that he got what he deserved and questioned his loco motive. At least one noted the possibility that the footage is fake, wondering why he was taking a video selfie.

Heavy.com wrote, “Curiously, it’s the only video on Michael’s channel — one of the factors that is leading to speculation that the video might be a hoax.” The Daily Dot, meanwhile, broke down the video into several frames to assess whether the clip is real.

At least the dummy didn’t get ran over by the train!

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Florida Crazies: Second Woman Popped For Making Freak Flicks With Decapitated And Tortured Animals!

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Do you recall these dirty beyotches?

Florida Woman Arrested In Conjunction With Animal Cruelty Sex

Via NYDailyNews

An adult fetish model was busted on animal cruelty charges Wednesday for making a series of disturbing barnyard p**n videos that included killing and torturing chickens and rabbits, Florida authorities said.

Stephanie Hird, 29, — the second animal snuff film starlet arrested in two weeks — was cuffed as she boarded a plane at Miami International Airport and booked on five felony counts of cruelty to animals, the Miami Herald reported.

Hird allegedly made a string of sickening films — known as “crush” videos to p**n enthusiasts — with Sara Zamora, 28, who was collared on April 4.

Investigators say the two wicked women acted in scenes for Adam Redford, a local fishing boat captain who produced the sadistic series of videos which feature the actresses torturing and killing animals while engaged in sex acts.

The arrests came after animal rights activists from the People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals alerted detectives from Miami-Dade’s agricultural unit to the gory clips — which were posted on a website called SOS Barn, officials said.

What the hell are they drinkin’ down in Florida?!

The video allegedly features the little creatures tied down before Hird — who performs pornography under the name Megan Jones — fatally shoots them with an air rifle, according to court documents obtained by the newspaper.

Hird, who lives in Arkansas, openly discusses her involvement affinity towards fetishes like feet tickling and bondage on her social media accounts.

“Are you in touch with your darkest fantasies? Have you created a life for yourself where you can experience them?” she posted on Facebook in February. “I have. I am f—–g crazy. BUT I AM FREE.”

On her Instagram account, Hird posted a couple of pictures of her smiling with Zamora — including one captioned with “#PartnersInCrime.”

Hird also appeared in the TLC show “Strange Sex” to help a man realize his dream of being with a giant woman. The episode uses special effects to make the woman appear as if she were several-hundred-feet tall and towering over cities before manhandling her victim.

“I love being considered a giantess and a goddess,” a smiling Hird tells the camera behind the scenes of the show. “Guys love being overpowered. They like being controlled. They like, you know, a woman being in charge — like she should be.”

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Flip it over to peep more pics of these two filthy hoes.

Images via Miami-Dade Sheriff’s County/Instagram

“SAD” (Students Against Diddy): Not Everyone Thrilled About Dropout Diddy Talking At Howard University Ceremony [Video]

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Not everyone is just willing to “take that-take that.”

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Who Looks More Bangin With An Afro? Brandy VS. Solange [Photos]

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Brandy Norwood arrives at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Open Road Films' 'A Haunted House 2' held at Regal Cinemas in Los Angeles. Los Angeles, California - Wednesday

Natural hair don’t care!

Solange DJ’s Levi’s House Party, Brandy Attends “Haunted House 2″ Premiere

Brandy hit up the “A Haunted House 2″ LA Premiere Wednesday night showing off her new short and kinky style. Ya dig?

Solange Knowles seen leaving the Levis Annual House party in Los Angeles. She was DJing at the party earlier that night. Los Angeles, California -

Meanwhile Solange also showed off a big and wild look at Levis Annual House party, also in L.A., which she deejayed. If you had to choose, Who Looked More Bangin’ with an afro?

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Young Swirl Love: Laker Nick Young Tells The Cameras How He’s Gonna Plaster Iggy Azalea’s Pound Cakes All Over The Bedroom Wall [Video]

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Who needs playoffs when there’s QUALITY ASS to tap? Not Swaggy P … ’cause after the Lakers final game last night, dude was FIRED UP about takin’ it to the hole with his rap superstar GF Iggy Azalea.

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So What Happened Was? Columbus Short Responds To Allegations He Threatened To Murk His Wife!

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Well kinda sorta… Columbus knew he had to say SOMETHING about all that craziness!

Columbus Short Releases A Statement In Response To Wife’s Abuse Allegations

Isht pretty much hit the fan Wednesday after Columbus Short’s wife filed for divorce AND a restraining order that included a statement that said he’d threatened her a knifepoint. While he definitely has some explaining to do, Short says he just can’t right now.

In a statement released by his publicist on his behalf Short says:

“As you all know, lately my personal life has been subjected to a lot of press. As much as I would like to provide my side of events, my counsel has instructed me that a Court of law is the only and proper venue to deal with such matters. Accordingly, I must refrain from making any comments even though that is very difficult for me under the circumstances. Thank you to my fans for your continued support during this difficult time.”

Yikes… Shonda Rhimes is probably THIS close to writing homeboy off “Scandal.”

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*BOSSIP Exclusive* The Ladies Of “Love In The City” Talk White Men Putting It Down In The Bedroom Better Than Black Men [Video]

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We’ve all heard the myth about white men and their “lack” of skills in the bedroom, but the ladies of “Love In The City” say don’t believe the hype.

Love In The City Cast Speak On Myths About Dating White Men

The vibrant ladies of new reality docu-series “Love In The City” stopped by to chat it up with BOSSIP and when we asked them about the myth that white men can’t put it down in the bedroom, they were quick to set the record straight.

Dear Bossip: My Boyfriend Revealed He Was Molested By A Pastor, Then I Noticed He Visited Gay Websites & Had Tranny Friends Online

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Dear Bossip,

HELP! Okay, so recently my boyfriend revealed to me that he was molested as a teen by a pastor.

Me, being the person that I am, I didn’t write him off immediately. So, shortly after his confession I noticed he had Tranny friends online. When I confronted him he claimed he didn’t know they were men. Again, giving him the benefit of the doubt, I didn’t leave I simply watched closer.

So, today I went online on his phone and I noticed he had gay p0rn websites in his browser history.  Should I leave? I mean I’m so confused that I haven’t even asked him about it yet. One reason, I’m too uncomfortable to even have that conversation with him. Second, I don’t know what to say or where to begin. Lastly, I KNOW HE’S GOING TO LIE ABOUT BEING GAY. Also, if he is gay or bi does that mean he’ll cheat for sure with a man? I don’t even want to be cheated on with a woman, but a man? It’s worst because I can’t ever be that. What should my next move be? – Confronting His Sexuality

Dear Ms. Confronting His Sexuality,

Ma’am, girl, please go have several seats. I can’t! If you think he will cheat on you with either a man or woman, then why stay? Girl, dumb is as dumb speaks.

You’re talking about you’re too uncomfortable to have a conversation with him about the gay p0rn websites on his browser, yet, you confronted him about his Tranny friends online. You weren’t too uncomfortable to ask about them, so why are you are all of a sudden afraid to ask about his web activities? Stop playing this damsel in distress role, and grow the hell up!

Sit down with him and simply have the conversation. Yes, it may be uncomfortable, and he may not be so readily to open up, and that’s understandable, especially discussing his molestation as a teen. Most boys and young men who have been molested by another man will never open up or share what happened to them. It’s traumatic, and it makes them question who they are, and their own sexual identity. It’s an internal battle they deal with, and unless they seek therapy with a professional therapist, they will grow into adult men who are constantly battling the internal demon that makes them question their sexuality, along with the mental and emotional damage it does to them. Not all men who are molested are gay. However, it does something to their psyche, and it does affect their mental and emotional well-being.

Therefore, you should ask him if he’s ever been in therapy or spoke with a psychologist about what happened to him. The fact that he revealed it to you says a lot. I’m sure it took a lot of courage for him to admit it. Therefore, he must feel comfortable with you. It may have been his way of reaching out, and possibly wants to talk about it. He opened the door, and you could have took that opportunity to ask further questions, and get to know more about him and his sexual desires.

If you’re willing to be his friend, and support him, then let him know that. Let him know that you are not going to judge him, or cast your opinion onto him. But, you have to decide if you want to be in a relationship with him, and that is something only you can answer. If it turns out he is gay, then of course not. It will never work. If he is bisexual, then, is that something you are ready to take on. I do strongly suggest that you ask him if he would be interested in speaking with a professional, and discussing what happened to him, and helping him to resolve his sexual identity. It will be impossible for him to try to handle this on his own, and not resolve what this may have done to him psychologically, and emotionally.

Next, be honest and upfront with him about how you feel. Let him know that after what you’ve discovered it makes you uncomfortable, and you know it may difficult to discuss, but ask him if he’s ever been with a man physically, sexually, or romantically. He may not admit to being in a relationship with another man, but some casual interaction may have occurred. He may not be in a place where he may be ready to share openly or candidly about his sexual experiences with guys. He could be just figuring this out, or, he’s hiding and simply is afraid of coming out. Hell, he may not be gay. He may very well be bisexual. He could possibly be polysexual.

Look, you can stay in this relationship, and silently wonder and question about his sexuality all you want. The fact that you’ve discovered on two different occasions incriminating contents that point to some suspicions about his sexuality, well, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then guess what it is? Ma’am, I don’t know how you can be friends with Transexuals online and not know they are men. Then, you use his phone and notice gay p0rn websites in his browser. Uhm, sweetie, let’s give him the benefit of the doubt and say he stumbled across one and accidental clicked the link. Yes, that may be a mistake. However, if he has several websites in the browser, uhm, yeah, he gay! SMDH!

Your closed mouth and speculations will get you nowhere. If you want to know, ask. If you’re still unconvinced after listening to him, or if you feel he is lying, then leave. Don’t wait until you actually catch him in the bed with another guy and then you are writing another letter wanting to know if he is gay because he told you that it was his first time, and they were just experimenting. – Terrance Dean

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