Ciara Brings Baby Future To Russell Wilson’s Training Camp Again

After Future went on a rant about a “punk a** hoe” following the release of pictures (like the one below) of his son at Russell Wilson’s training camp…

his unfazed baby mama brought his child back to the sporting event.

On Monday Ciara and “Juicy man” Future Zahir were spotted at the Seattle Seahawks training camp again…

where little Future exchanged high-fives with his mom’s new boyfriend.

On another day of camp Ciara and Future were spotted kicking it with fellow football wives and girlfriends…

and CiCi was all smiles with her boo on Instagram.

What do YOU think about Ciara bringing her baby to Russell Wilson’s training camp???

Fair or foul???

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Dear Bossip,

I am 27 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I really do like him and I’m falling in love with him.

He has told me on several occasions that he loves me as well, but everything started going south about a month ago. I have my own apartment, no children, and my own car. I work full-time, and I’m trying to go back to school for my B.A.

When I first met him he didn’t have a job nor a car. He just got out of jail, and he was living with his mother. He has a 3 year old daughter that he is raising because her mother abandoned her when she was a couple of months old. I have a health condition that may not allow me to have children in the future and I really want a family. I really enjoy doing things with him and his daughter, and I love buying her things. Me and his mother are really close and we talk all of the time, whether it’s about him or not. I am trying to go back to school to finish my degree and get my bachelor’s, but due to some health issues that isn’t possible at the moment.

About a month, he got a job and the calling and texting decreased day by day. I may text him, but he doesn’t respond back until maybe 3-4 hours later, and he says that he is working and he can’t respond like he wants to. When I see him I have to drive everywhere. He pays on some things, but I have to buy some things, too, which I guess I’m cool with, but not really because I want to be wined and dined. I rarely see him and we live in the same city. I see him maybe once every week or sometimes every 2 weeks.

I went to the hospital about a week ago, and I told him the day before I went, and, I told him the day that I got there. But, he didn’t really call or text to check up on me until hours later. He calls me sometimes when he wants me to pick him up from work or drop him off at work. But, just to say “hi” or to check on me, he doesn’t.

I tried to break up with him twice, but he keeps sucking me back in by saying nice and sweet things. He always tells me that he loves me and he needs me to be his motivation so that he can get back on his feet. In reality, I feel that I am being used. I feel like he is using me and waiting until something better comes along before he finally calls it quits on me.

I am ill with this small sickness and I don’t want to have to worry about him or worry about what he is doing. I want to be able to let him go if that’s what I need to do. I understand that he just got out of jail and that he needs motivation to get back on his feet, but I don’t feel like I’m that girl. When I try to leave him, sometimes I feel bad because something great may come out of this guy because he is a chef and I don’t want him to think that I wasn’t supportive or that I didn’t stand by him and patiently wait. Please help! I don’t know what to do. – Ms. Lil’ Misguided

Dear Ms. Lil’ Misguided,

Honey, you are being used. You are nothing more to him but his transportation, his financier, and his cheerleader. He wants you to stick with him and be his motivation until he gets on his feet, yet, he won’t be your motivation and encourage you as you pursue your degree, and deal with your health issues. Girl, he didn’t even check up on you while you were in the hospital. He didn’t go with you, and when he did call you it was hours later after you’d been there. He’s selfish. He’s self-absorbed, and he wants everyone to cater to him. Dump him and move on.

It’s been all of four months, and this zero just got out of jail and wants a sympathy party for his woe-is-me tale. It was all good when you first met him and he was calling you, texting you, and wanting to be the perfect boyfriend. But, it was all an act. He figured he’d met himself a good girl. You have your own car, home, and making money. You’re in school and are about your business. You are the perfect girl and it’s a name for you – The “Tide-Me-Over-Chick-Who-I-Can-Run-Game-On-Until-I-Get-On-My-Feet.”

Notice that he only calls you when he needs you to pick him up from work or to drop him off. He calls when he wants to go out, but you have to pay for the outing. He pours on the sob story about taking care of his child that his baby momma abandoned, so, you feel guilty that his daughter doesn’t have anything and you start buying her things, i.e., clothes, toys, diapers, and other items. He plays on your mentality by constantly talking about his jail stint and how he needs motivation and support from his girlfriend, and how he wants her to be there for him. Then, he plays on your emotions by telling you how much he loves you, wants you, and he wants to be a family with you. Thus, you feel you can’t leave him, or walk away because you will feel guilty for abandoning him during his ‘hard time’ and ‘difficult situation.’ Especially, since he is taking care of his daughter, and he has no other women in his life but his mother, whom you’ve connected with and built a bond. So, you stay with him. SMDH!

Girl, it’s the same ole okey doke and sad song these rag-a-muffins sing and play with every woman they come in contact with, particular those ‘fresh out of jail.’ They are trifling, good-for-nothing, and ain’t about –ish. They just use you up, take all that they can, and dump you when they’re done taking your money, time, energy, and life. Don’t waste your time on someone who is not willing to invest or pour into you as much as you invest and pour into them.

You already stated that you are not that girl who feels obligated to motivate some grown ass man on how to live his life, work, and better himself. That is not your responsibility. He lives at home with his momma, so let her be his cheerleader. This grown ass man talking about he needs a woman to motivate him to do what he’s supposed to be doing….he has a child he’s supposed to be raising. He better get it together and grow up and be a father for his child. But, he can’t because he’s a child himself. He needs coddling, consoling, and babying. Honey, dump him and don’t feel guilty about it. He wasn’t, and isn’t worth your time or energy. He won’t return on your investment, so, drop him and find someone on your level and someone who will equally motivate you, encourage you, and inspire you to grow. – Terrance Dean

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A Beijing policeman rescued a newborn baby who was stuck face-down in a public toilet, reaching his arm down into the pipe to gently pull out the infant, police and reports said Tuesday. The baby girl was in stable condition at a hospital in the Chinese capital, and authorities were trying to identify her parents and find out how she ended up in the toilet, police and Beijing Television said. The local broadcaster aired a video taken by police of the rescue Sunday by officer Qian Feng following reports of cries in a public restroom in a Beijing alley.

Abuja offers dozens of great places for business travelers and adventurous foodies. Here are our picks for the best restaurants in the city!

Tracy Morgan Enjoys A Yankees Game With His Family

We couldn’t be more thrilled to see Tracy Morgan looking much improved and smiling ear to ear. The comedian who has faced a long road of recovery following a highway accident that took the life of his friend and fellow comedian Jimmy McNeil waved and interacted with fans Tuesday while enjoying a Yankees/Red Sox game with his wife Megan and their daughter.

No secret who they’re rooting for. The whole crew was decked out in blue.

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Khloe Kardashian Shows Off “Revenge Body” In Women’s Health

Khloe Kardashian is showing off her new baaaawdy for the latest issue of Women’s Health magazine.

In it, Khloe says she’s dropped 30 pounds by working out every day and was motivated by her split from Lamar Odom.

She also calls her new figure her “revenge body” for people who’ve called her fat.

People. com reports:

Despite her love for cooking and enjoying some vino, Kardashian says she’s “more aware now.”

The reality star, who has an entire closet dedicated to fitness apparel, tells the magazine she has been working out since around 2012, around the same time she was splitting from her now ex-husband Lamar Odom.

“I was having a hard time with Lamar. It was toward the end of our union, and there was so much drama,” she says. “I needed a release.”

At first, Kardashian says it was “baby steps” and “so hard.”
“The first 45 days you’re like, ‘F——k this s——t,’” she adds. “You’re exhausted, you’re sore, and I actually felt fatter because I was swollen.”

But the star didn’t give up on her sessions with celeb trainer Gunnar Peterson: “If you keep going, you’re eventually like, ‘Wow, is that an indentation on my arm? Yeah, it’s a revenge body. But it’s just as much for all my critics who called me ‘the fat one’ for my entire existence.”

For reference this was Khloe in 2012 for Prestige magazine…

and now after her 30 pound weight loss.

What do YOU think about Khloe’s revenge body???

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Joe Jackson Suffered Stroke After Taking Three Viagras In Brazil

Joe Jackson might be old as hell but MJ’s daddy is still out trying to live the YOLO life.

The Jackson patriarch suffered a serious stroke and three heart attacks after a night of partying with younger women in Brazil amid claims that he took three Viagra pills.

Via Daily Mail:

The 87-year-old flew into the country two weeks ago for a pleasure trip set to include a $200,000-birthday blowout in his honor but ended up being rushed to hospital on the eve of the celebration.

Now as he recovers in Sao Paulo after being released today from hospital, it has emerged the temptations of the Brazilian party city may have been physically too much for Michael Jackson’s father.

Just hours after his arrival in the country, the Jackson patriarch was spotted dining with a group of ladies including a voluptuous – and much younger – woman at an upscale restaurant.

Two days later he hit the town once again with the attractive redhead and other women, and was said to have been out until the early hours.

He was ‘feeling unwell’ the following day – July 26 -, according to his representative, and was eventually taken to hospital for what turned to have been a stroke.

It was followed by multiple cardiac arrests – including one where his heart stopped for 10 seconds – that led doctors to fit him with a pacemaker.

But the story of how he got there appears to be much more salacious than anyone would imagine.

According to a local newspaper, the octogenarian ‘overdid it’ on his second big night out with his lady friends.
As they visited a number of bars and restaurants, he is said to have mixed the local cocktail of caipirinha – made with Brazilian sugarcane rum – with other drinks.

But the ‘bigger problem’ was that he also had taken ‘three little blue pills’ for erectile dysfunction.

Joe was later reported to not be feeling well after popping the pills and was later rushed to a local hospital in Brazil:

‘He had a headache, took some medicine, and it went away. But afterwards he wasn’t feeling well. It was then that we decided he needed medical exams. He had to be rushed to hospital.’

He added: ‘He was between life and death. He had three cardiac arrests. The first lasted 10 seconds, the others, four seconds each.’

Either way, Jackson ended up missing his lavish party, which went ahead on his request.

The women accompanying him are dancers who form part of his entourage, local sources said.

According to a report, they dance for him to soothe his notoriously explosive temperament – and nothing else.

Jackson continues his recovery after being released today from the Albert Einstein Hospital, where superstar daughter Janet is said to have come visit him. His son Jermaine was also present.

At the tender age of 87, can you really blame the guy??

“Don’t Be Scared” Episode 14

This week on “Don’t Be Scared” Danni and Jah try to feel proud dad David’s “Back To School” pain before delving into the never ending Drake V.S. Meek Mill Drama.

Danni reveals her theory on how the beef is affecting Nicki Minaj and Meek’s relationship, and David rants about Drake’s “insufferable fans.”

Next up is talk about baby Future’s multiple appearances at Russell Wilson’s training camp that has Ashy Twitter ablaze with various opinions and claims that Ciara is a “hoe” for having her son around her new boo.

Later things get more serious via an appearance from community organizer Aurielle of #ItsBiggerThanYou for the show’s #MovementMoment.

Over the weekend Aurielle unbeknownst to her became a part of what’s been called the #StoneMountain7, a group of people who had an unplanned meet up at Stone Mountain that turned into all out brave protest of the KKK and The Confederate Flag.

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Turn the pages for Coco showing off her… skills.

Georiga Man Tells Cops That Pound Of Marijuana Is Just Salad

SMFH…

Via FOXJax

A 26-year-old man was arrested after police found a pound of marijuana during a traffic stop.

The St. Mary’s Police Department in Georgia, posted a photo of the marijuana in a sandwich bag on its Facebook page with a message for other marijuana users:

Look, If we have said it once, we have said a zillion times! No matter how hard you try to convince us this green leafy stuff is salad and you’re just coming back from the store going to make a chef salad, Well Sous Chef UP! A SALAD THIS IS NOT!!!

Officers encountered Richard Relliford during a traffic stop, a 26 year old St. Marys resident, who had recently obtained this 1 pound bag of marijuana. He went to jail, as this is still illegal in Georgia!!!

Stay Safe Out There—Criminals Are A-FOOT!!

Richard Relliford was arrested and jailed, according to the Facebook post.

The post had over 130 likes and sparked a conversation in the comments section about potential drug reform.

Facebook user Lisa Toal commented, “And I was going to offer up some ranch dressing! Too funny!”
Richard Ghiloni chimed in, “Normal bag of cabbage? No says I.”

Grade-A moron right here, ladies and gentlemen.

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Here are our favorite Instagram photos (and a few videos) from Namibia’s Etosha National Park over the past week!

Columbus Short Talks “Mr. Right” Movie And Reveals He’s In The Film Adaptation Of “True 2 The Game”

Last year it seemed as if the drama in actor Columbus Short’s life far outweighed anything he was facing on the big or small screen. Fortunately things seem to be looking up, with the actor currently starring in “Mr. Right,” a romantic comedy that premiered to rave reviews on BET and is now available on DVD and VOD (Amazon, iTunes, M-Go). While promoting the film, Short took some time to chat with BOSSIP’s Managing Editor Janeé Bolden about his role in “Mr. Right,” a possible return to “Scandal” and whether or not he’ll appear on “Empire.” He also makes a big reveal about an upcoming project with Lee Daniels!

Check out the interview below:

Bossip: So you’re Mr. Right, right? In the movie?

CB: Yes, yes in the movie. Absolutely.

Bossip: So what attracted you to the roll of Michael?

CB: It was fun. I mean i knew I’d have fun playing a, you know, quasi-ladies man. There was a likability about him, he was an artist. I love characters that have a little bit of some layers. This guy on paper looks like he’s a gigolo but he’s an artist. He’s a lover, he’s still a dreamer. All those qualities that aren’t so apparent in male roles, especially Black male roles so it’s an interesting role to play, and fun! It’s very fun.

Bossip: It’s interesting you say its a layered part, are you typically more interested in playing the good guy or the bad guy?

CB: I like playing humans. Whether it’s a good guy or a bad guy I don’t want it to be boring. If it’s a villain, I don’t want to play a villain that’s written as a villain that’s just obvious. You know, “Oh he’s the bad guy with no other qualities”, cause, you know, sometimes good people do bad things for the right reasons and visa versa so just people who are flawed and have real human character traits. Everyone’s not all bad and everyone’s not all good.

Bossip: True. Now, you also got to work with Jackie Long on the project I know you guys are close. You worked on a music project together, so what do you think it is about that dynamic, you and Jackie, that works so well on screen?

CB: I think me and Jackie are gonna do a lot of movies together. It’s kind of like me and Jackie have that true energy. It’s like who can I liken it to, Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn. There’s an interesting story why I wanted Jackie for the movie. It’s because I wanted to have the freedom to not carry the weight. when you’re the lead of a movie, you have to carry the weight sometimes. You’re in a lot more of the scenes than your cast members and sometimes you just want a little help. And I know Jackie would be able to enter the scene and be hilarious all the time. So he allows me to play a straighter role and not have to cover the funny. Together it just works. You’ve hung out with us, we kinda just have a banter between the two of us, it’s just us. Long and Short. Short and Long, you know what I’m saying?

Bossip:That’s a funny life coincidence.

Columbus Short: Right.

Bossip: In the film, your’e actually kind of the main go to for this dating service. We were curious if you’d ever actually use a dating service or if you ever have?

Columbus Short: Nah, not really. Not unless you count IG as a dating service.

Bossip: Oh, so you like to slide in DM’s, huh?
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>Columbus Short: I mean I have, you know, been slid on in my DM’s. I’m not gonna lie I have slid into a couple of DM’s here or there, especially in this last year. But um, nah I have never used a dating service and I don’t know if I ever would. I don’t know, I can see why people use the BlackPeopleMeet.com, and the EHarmony and all those things, you know, everyone wants love, i guess. You know, sometimes it’s hard to find, so people kind of manufacture it. Would I do it? No. But i’m not one knocking anyone who does.

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Atlanta Area Man Arrested For Pimping His Teen Wife

WTF?!?

Via WSB-TV

A Gwinnett County man pleaded guilty Monday to pimping his 18-year-old wife.

Delorean Gibson, 29, was arrested in March during a human trafficking sting at a motel in Norcross. Undercover officers found a teenage woman in an online ad for sex and paid her $90 for 30 minutes of service, according to a news release sent Tuesday by the Gwinnett County Solicitor’s Office.

During the sting, the woman handed Gibson the money under the motel bathroom door, where he was hiding. Officials then arrested both Gibson and the teenager — who are now married, according to the release.

Gibson pleaded guilty to pimping and possession of marijuana, for which he was sentenced to six months in prison, 24 months on probation, and an alcohol and drug evaluation and a risk reduction class. He also must stay away from all Gwinnett hotels, motels and inns.

Scumbag Shawty.

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Meek Mill Threatened Drake With A Wedgie

Meek Mill decided to fire more shots at Drake and it went left quickly. Because for some reason Meek Mill decided to tell people he’d give Drake a wedgie. A. Wedgie. Look.

A grown man said he’d give another grown man a wedgie. And this is what battling is? Naturally this only led to people giving Meek more ether. Poor Meek. Poor, poor Meek.

Trans Model Addresses Tyga Rumors And Reveals Past Issue With Stalker

If Tyga thought that whole tranny sex scandal was all in the past he was wrong. Last night Mia Isabella finally addressed Tyga directly, using Instagram to put him on full blast:

Yikes… So Tyga is guilty? Do you believe it?

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Supermodel Jourdan Dunn in a gold revealing bikini costume at the Kadooment Day parade in Barbados on Monday, where the likes of Rihanna and Lewis Hamilton were also partying.

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Kedar Massenberg Girl Group Rawyals Premiere New Video “On One”

Balancing passion, personality and purpose is a royal task. But for Ariel Nicholson, Bel Cabrera and Asia Shabazz, it is one that they have gladly accepted. Hailing from both coasts—New York, Washington State and Los Angeles—their paths have uniquely intertwined to create Rawyals; a R&B/Pop girl group. BOSSIP is proud to premiere the brand new video for their song “On One.” Check it out below:

What did you think?

Rawyals are set to release their debut album, Our Queendom on September 25 via Massenburg Media. The album includes guest features from Wale, Troy Ave, Remy Ma, and Fetty Wap. Starting August 7, fans who pre-order Our Queendom on iTunes will receive an instant grat download of the “On One” and “King Me” video and exclusive track of “On One” ft Troy Ave and “King Me” ft Fetty Wap.

Rawyals are set to join the Scream Nation “Back 2 School” Fest 2015 alongside Rich Homie Quan, K Camp, Justine Sky & more kicking off September 11 in Ft. Lauderdale, FL.

Keep up with Rawyals on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook @wearerawyals.

You can pre-order Our Queendom HERE

Dear Bossip,

I have been with my current boyfriend for 4 years. This is the first relationship.

I’ve been in love for real. Not the teenage love, or the love when things are all roses. It’s also the first time I realized a man can love me for me, without trying to change my good qualities.

He’s a very compassionate, intelligent, and forgiving person. However, in the time we’ve been together, we’ve hurt each other quite a bit, and now I’m unsure if we should continue in this relationship.

For starters, he has two kids while I have none. I swore I’d never date a man with kids because I didn’t want “baby mama drama.” For my boyfriend, I accepted his situation for reasons I now can’t remember. Not only does he have “baby mama drama,” but he rarely sees his son because of it – a choice I feel is very hard to understand.

When we first got together, I felt I was too immature, and bitter from my last heartbreak (I’d been single for a year, but was in a two-year relationship prior to meeting my boyfriend), and I was still trying to figure out my passion in life. I explained these things to him, but he convinced me we could grow together. I love my boyfriend very much, but the older I get I feel like love isn’t enough.

We’ve had our share of up and downs, particularly, because we come from very different backgrounds; mine a two-parent household, and his…not so much. I really want to focus on going back to school (I’m 25) and becoming more responsible. He understands and supports my desires, but his lifestyle makes my goals more difficult. I haven’t been a good person with him, either – I stole from him (several times) and lied about employment to his face many times (pretending to leave for work, but being jobless). He forgave me, and took me back – even though I made terrible, hurtful choices.

When things got really hard in our relationship, I left him twice. Now, I feel indebted to him for forgiving me. I had hoped that one day we would get married (and maybe have kids, maybe), but he recently informed me that marriage wasn’t on his agenda (until he is 50 he said). I’m trying to be ok with that, but in my heart I know being a long-term girlfriend isn’t going to keep me happy in the long run. I’m not ready for marriage at this point (I threw in the towel twice in 4 years), but I know it’s something I will want later in life.

I know in my heart that I’m not “the one” for him, but he does love me. Still, I don’t want to be with him for another 4 years, and he leaves me when he does find “the one.”

Another problem is family drama. We both have family that always needs financial help in one way or the other. It’s even more difficult now because we live with his brother, his brother’s girlfriend, and their two kids. When I suggest we nix the idea of saving money and get our own place, he tells me he can’t leave his brother in a financially bad situation.

Living with his brother causes more issues between us. In the house we have to walk around on eggshells so we don’t upset his demanding and selfish girlfriend. I’m a constant (free) taxi because I have a car with working AC. They’re always needing to borrow money. And, my boyfriend is a thankless babysitter on a everyday basis. Our living situation causes more arguments on top of past hurts we still bring up.

He’s always trying to fix his friend’s relationships, but in doing this I feel like he puts another woman’s happiness before mine. For example, his friend’s girlfriend can call crying, and my boyfriend will talk to her for 30 minutes. This annoys me because his friends don’t show the same courtesy to me (not that I’d call them with my relationship issues. I have girlfriends for that). Him doing this is the reason I left the first time, and now he’s back to doing it again with his brother’s girlfriend.

I know all these signs add up to us just being incompatible and I should walk away before either one of us waste our youth. But, I love him and I’ve already walked away from him twice. How could I hurt him again? – Lonely in Love

Dear Ms. Lonely in Love,

Here we go with that infamous line that many of you women say when you’re in loveless and unhappy relationship, “But, I love him.” SMDH! You’re in a go-no-where-relationship, unhappy, miserable, and looking for a way out, but you stay with the man whom you want to get away from, doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved, and you know you’re not “the one,” but you love him. Girl, I can’t!

You’re talking about should you walk away before either of you waste your youth. Uhm, Ms. Honey, it’s been time to go. And, if you left him twice, then make this the final goodbye. Trust me, you won’t hurt him. You’re hurting yourself by staying. Can’t you hear it in your letter? Re-read your letter and feel all the pain, hurt, sadness, and bitterness.

And, if you know you’re not “the one,” and he has no plans on getting married to you any time soon, especially after four years of your time and energy, then why stay? Why keep giving him top billing in your life? Why make him a priority, yet, you are an incidental person in his? Everyone comes before you – his brother and his brother’s girlfriend and their kids. Their financial needs. His friend’s girlfriends calling him to cry on his shoulder and seeking advice. (By the way, those women want to sleep with him. No woman is going to call their man’s best friend to cry on his shoulder not unless she wants to sleep with him. And, now that his brother’s girlfriend is crying on his shoulder, uhm, sweetie, she will definitely sleep with him.)

Get out of this relationship and save yourself. Save your life! You’re in a rut, and in the gutter. And, he is dragging you down with him. They say misery loves company, and because his life is miserable he has drug you down with him. Think about it. Had you been single, or living in your own place while dating him and you made yourself a priority, then you would see his drama, his issues, and his choices are all due to his inability to make rational good judgments or choices in life.

He chose to move in with his brother and their family because he wants to help them out financially. Yet, he ends up giving them more money than he is saving, and you have become the free taxi, watching their kids, and helping their household. But, you don’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. They keep taking, and you dumbasses keep giving it to them. Thus, it’s not rational or a good judgment call to live with someone and neither of you are winning or doing any better.

And, chile, for the life of me I don’t understand how two grown ass adults who are capable and willing to have their own place will shack up with some other grown ass folks. You’re not in high school or in college. You’re adults. Grow the damn hell up! His brother and girlfriend need to either downsize their life, or find a way to make it without bumming off you and your boyfriend.

Next, if you’re in a relationship and you have to lie about your job, or the lack of having one to save face, and you’re stealing from your partner, then it’s definitely time to go. Who does that? You’re willing to hurt your partner rather than be honest. That is a serious issue and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you are intentionally hurting one another. That’s not love.

Then, on top of it, you say that you didn’t want to date men with children, yet, your boyfriend has two children and baby momma drama. Uhm, then, why are you in a relationship with him? Why go back on your word? And, you say you can’t even remember why you dated him knowing this information. SMDH! Honey, he is not a prize. You didn’t get man of the year with him. Hell, he isn’t even man of the day. So, why are you there?

Girl, he’s not actively involved in his child’s life. Which means he’s a deadbeat dad. And, knowing he’s a deadbeat dad, then he it’s safe to say he’s a deadbeat boyfriend. He got you living in his brother’s house. He’s consoling other women. You’re not a priority to him. Girl! Really? Well, I can’t blame him. You chose to move in with his brother and girlfriend. You could have said, “Hell, naw! I’m not moving in with your brother, and his girlfriend and children. I’m too old for that –ish.” But, you didn’t. You packed your bags and followed your boyfriend into the basement. So, you are just as culpable.

Sweetie, this relationship was over years ago. But, like you said you stayed because you feel indebted to him. Well, consider the debt paid in full, and get out! You’re in the gutter, living in hell, and have nothing to show for it because you want to be the dutiful and faithful girlfriend who stood by her man through the good and the bad. Uhm, you’ve had more bad than good. You’re scratching the bottom of the barrel and he’s sitting there giggling and smiling because he has company at the bottom of the barrel.

So what if he meets another woman and she is the one for him, just know that she will be the one for him living in hell, but they will be happy in their misery. Some women like that drama, stress, and aggravation. You don’t have to endure it. Let him go, climb out of this misery, and rejuvenate yourself. Get out of hell and look for the brighter days and better you. There is another man for you, and he will not be a man who will have you living in someone else’s home, dealing with baby momma drama, a deadbeat dad, and giving other men’s girlfriends priority over you. Honey, ain’t no way I would be sitting in the basement of someone else’s home and letting my man console other women trying to save other folks relationship when our relationship is –ish. No way, no how. Let it go. Move on. Wish him the best. And, find your sane, and happy. Find yourself. And, use this time to work on you and do the things you want to do, like find your passion, go back to school, and get your own place to live. You don’t owe him anything. Staying because you feel indebted will keep you there forever. And, he’s already told you that he is not getting married until he’s 50 years old. Besides, and let’s be honest, you know you’re not the one for him. When your heart and mind knows this, then it’s definitely time to go. – Terrance Dean

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