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Sorcery: A Gallery Of Adult Film Stars Without Makeup

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A Gallery Of Adult Film Stars Without Makeup

Hey, here’s something you might not know: not all adult film stars are exactly as they appear. Sometimes they look a bit different in real life. Don’t believe us? One adult film makeup artist posted a bunch of makeup-less pics and it’s quite interesting. Take a look.

T.I. Fan Creeps Around Rapper’s Home Late At Night And He Puts Her On Blast For It

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Some people take their fandom to a level that really doesn’t make much sense. While it’s one thing to try and be at the events of one of your favorite artists/celebrities to meet them, it’s another to pop up at that person’s home at night trying to see and be seen. A fan (and manager of a few artists as it turns out) tried it, and rapper T.I. was not very understanding.

[Madamenoire]


I’m Over It: 15 Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Job Already

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“I’m over it. ”I’ve spewed these words more than once at many of my jobs. Sometimes it was because of a bad day, other times a bad week. But I didn’t take my rants seriously until they became more frequent. My workload didn’t change, my co-workers were the exact same as when I first started, and management was still…trifling management.

[Madamenoire]


Nicki Minaj & Meek Mill Trade Bars On “Big Daddy” [Listen]

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Nicki Minaj’s The Pinkprint album hits retailers in five days time. Fortunately, “Big Daddy,” one of two Meek Mill-assisted songs on the project, has released before then. Considering that MMG rapper recently celebrated a homecoming from prison, it was only right that Philadelphia’s DJ Cosmic Kev of Power 99 premiered the record. One doesn’t need to be a rocket scientist to see why Minaj featured Meek on the cut.

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Dear Bossip: I Met A Guy, But I Slept With His Older Brother Years Ago

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Dear Bossip,

I am a mid 30 year old single woman who has been dating this guy that I really like.

However, I had sex with his older brother 10 years ago when I was really loose. His brother and I messed around twice for money, and then afterward we have remained really cool with one another; always talking once a week or so.

Then, I met the younger brother at a party for their family. We talked and texted that night only to hook-up later on that night. Now, six months later, the whole family knows. The big brother goes around our mutual friends asking what do they think about our relationship (that we don’t have).

Now, it’s just a big headache, but me and the younger brother do care about each other. We really didn’t think of it as being a big deal. I stopped calling the younger brother, but he still calls and wants to hang out. But, I am sick of going back and forth with his family because he tells me what they say behind my back. Something that was supposed to be a fun fling turned wrong. – Dating Gone Wrong

Dear Ms. Dating Gone Wrong,

Well, I think you need to pump the brakes and slow down. Did it ever occur to you while you were at the party for the family, and when you met the younger brother, that this would potentially go horribly wrong? Did it dawn on you that exchanging numbers and texting with the younger brother of the older brother that you slept with previously would not be a good idea? Did you even think to consider that sleeping with him on the same night that you met him was probably too soon, as:

1.) You don’t really know him.

2.) He’s the younger brother of the older brother you slept with, and you slept with him for money.

3.) The younger brother would go back and tell the older brother he slept with you, and they may not have anything favorable to say about you.

4.) Again, you slept with him the same night you met him and you don’t really know him, so what do you think the family would say or think about you, especially since you slept with the older brother as well.

5.) And, you basically fall under the category of hoe-dom!

Ma’am, you’re grown. You’re in your mid thirties. You can do whatever the hell you want to do. However, I’m going to need for you to act your age, and not like a grown a** THOT! What woman sleeps with the brother of a man she used to sleep with, and you used to sleep with him for money? For money? Really?!? You offered that tidbit of information that you slept with the older brother for money, and you had the audacity to say when you were younger you were loose? Face palm! I can’t!

Sweetie, you are still loose! HELLO! You slept with a man on the same night you met him. And, he is the younger brother of the man you used to sleep with 10 years ago!!! That is trifling. That is disgusting and low down. Have some damn dignity. Hell, if you were going to sleep with a family member why not let it be a cousin, a distant cousin.

Look, you did the right thing by stop calling the younger brother. It’s too messy. And, who wants to put up with all that drama anyway. The older brother obviously feels some type of way, and he is not too happy about it. He is the main gossip monger stirring up drama. He’s getting family and friends involved with something that happened 10 years ago between you and he. So, maybe he wanted something more, or perhaps, he probably finds it nasty and disgusting that you are sleeping with his younger brother. Who knows, and who cares. One thing is that you can stop communication with the both of them.

The older brother is not your friend, and his behavior has demonstrated that you and he were not as cool as you thought you were. He’s putting you on blast, and all your business in the streets. So, therefore, it’s obvious to see you and he were not friends, not cool, and not even friendly. I bet he wanted to smash again, and was waiting for the opportune time for it to happen. That is the only reason he was so-called cool with you. Therefore, cut him off.

In regards to the young brother who is still calling and wants to hang out, simply let him know that it will not work. You do not want to be involved in drama, and, it’s not a good idea that you two continue any type of relationship, friendly or otherwise. Why is he running back telling you what the family is saying? It’s obvious that it bothers him if he feels the need to tell you what is being said. And, trust me, he doesn’t want to hang out, he wants to have sex again. He will never take you serious, even if he wanted to, because the family and his brother will continue to talk, stir up drama, and keep the mess going of how you slept with the both of them. So, end it, move on, and tell him to stop calling and texting.

And, I’m going to need for you to work on yourself, your self-respect, and your dignity. Do not sleep with a man on the same night you meet him at a party. You know nothing about him. I do hope you used a condom, and even afterward you went to the doctor to get a check-up. You have to use better judgment, and you should think the entire thing through before you go from 0 to 100.

Ask yourself, is this a good thing to do? Do I really know him? What is his sexual health status? How am I honoring myself, and my body? Do I need to go through with this to prove something? Will I respect myself afterward? Do I respect myself now?

Take the time to get to know you. Get to know what you deserve, what you desire, and who you want to be in relation to a man. Stop allowing yourself to be some random THOT who men do not respect. You are too old to be acting the way you are. Respect yourself. Respect your body. And, stop this loose act, didn’t you learn anything from T.D. Jakes when he said, “Woman, thou are loose?” – Terrance Dean

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Florida Crazies: Woman Named Heidi Creamer Brutally Beats Twin Sister For Stealing Her Boyfriend & Her Freaky Toy

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You just can’t make this stuff up

Florida Woman Beats Twin Sister Over Boyfriend & Vibrator

A Palm Bay, Florida woman named Hedi Creamer beat up her twin sister for stealing her man and stealing her vibrator.

NO, THIS IS NOT A JOKE.

The Smoking Gun reports:

The 48-year-old Florida woman slugged her twin sister in the face yesterday during an argument over “Heidi’s boyfriend and a sexual toy (vibrator),” police report.

A “verbal altercation” between the siblings turned violent Sunday afternoon when Heidi walloped Holly with a closed fist.

After knocking her sister to the ground, Heidi (pictured at right) allegedly “punched, scratched, and pulled Holly’s hair” during the ensuing struggle in the apartment the sisters share with Heidi’s boyfriend.

When police arrived at the pair’s Ellenton apartment, Heidi was locked outside, pounding on the front door and screaming obscenities at her bloodied sister.

Heidi was “screaming and her body was shaking,” noted a cop, who added that Creamer “attempted to break free from my grasp several times.”

After being placed in a squad car, Heidi “began screaming that she was fighting with her sister Holly over a vibrator and her boyfriend.” Sadly, cops did not describe the exact nature of the duo’s dispute over a) Heidi’s boyfriend or b) the vibrator.

Charged with domestic battery, Heidi (seen in the adjacent mug shot) was booked into the Manatee County jail, where bond has yet to be set. Heidi’s rap sheet includes multiple prior arrests for drunk driving and battery. (1 page)

LOL!

What do you think about Ms. Creamer going ham on her sis over her boyfriend and a sex toy???

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Bye (Racist) Beyotch! Florida State University Instructor Resigns After Ranting About Obama &‘Filthy Dirty Muslims’ On Facebook Post About Tamir Rice

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“You are intellecutal [sic] fraud, just like your Messiah. Obama has single-handedly turned our once great society into a Ghetto Culture”

A Florida State University Instructor is out of a job after blasting a woman on Facebook who was expressing her support for justice for Tamir Rice.

The New York Daily News reports:

Deborah O’Conner, a lecturer at Florida State University, quit her post after writing a homophobic slur on a stranger’s Facebook page, as well as the phrase ‘filthy rodent Muslims.’

A Florida college instructor has abruptly resigned after writing a series of racist, gay and profane Facebook posts.

Deborah O’Connor, an 18-year veteran teacher at Florida State University, resigned via email after a social media backlash erupted over comments she wrote on the Facebook page of a New York beauty consultant.

“Take your Northern fagoot (sic) elitism and shove it up your a–,” she posted on the page belonging to Colin Lively, who had hailed a recent decision by Attorney General Eric Holder to federally investigate the police killing of Tamir Rice, a 12-year-old boy shot to death while holding a pellet gun.

“YOU all elected POTUS (President of the United States), Holder et al. And they are supposed to represent all Americans, not just blacks … why don’t these a– clowns insert themselves into their stories?” she wrote, according to The Folio Weekly.com.

She didn’t stop there. O’Connor and Lively were not Facebook friends, but they had a social media friend in common.

“You are intellecutal fraud, just like your Messiah. Obama has single-handedly turned our once great society into a Ghetto Culture, rivaling that of Europe.

“France is almost at war because of his ‘dirty filthy Muslims’ who are attacking Native Frenchmen and women,” O’Connor wrote last week.

She quit her FSU job over the weekend.

“I’ve learned by leson about Facebook, let’s just leave it at that,” O’Connor told the Tallahassee Democrat on Wednesday.

“I decided to resign because I didn’t think it was feasible to drag myself and Florida State University through this kind of mud,” she told the paper.

She removed her comments from Lively’s page and has apparently closed all her social media accounts.

“This blatant racism has to stop,” Lively wrote on his Facebook page. “This woman needed to be exposed.”

Bye racist beyotch!!! Nice to know that she won’t be injecting FSU students with any more of her racist poison. Why did she go off like that on a Tamir Rice post?!

Isn’t He Married? Newlywed Ex-NFL’er Keyshawn Johnson Accused Of Homewrecking Becky Model’s Marriage

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Another day another Becky wife being unfaithful with a baller!

Man Alleges Model Wife Had An Online Affair With Keyshawn Johnson

But didn’t Keyshawn just get married?

According to TMZ reports:

Ex-NFL great Keyshawn Johnson is caught in the middle of a model’s break-up with her husband — who thinks she’s been cheating with Johnson … and has filled his court papers with lurid messages.

Alicia Tarry’s husband just filed docs seeking an annulment of their 6-month marriage based on fraud. The docs include scores of Twitter direct messages Johnson and Tarry allegedly sent to each other.

The DMs include some racy language about arranging possible hook-ups between Alicia and Johnson. One DM says, “Send me a p**** shot.” The response, “I’ll get one in a few sorry have a guest over.”

It appears Tarry’s husband got hold of her phone or her Twitter account … because one of the alleged DMs to Keyshawn — says, “Please leave my wife Alicia alone.”

Alicia tells us she did not cheat with Keyshawn, and further … she says the DMs “appear suspicious” and were illegally obtained.

Sources close to Keyshawn tell us he has “no idea what the guy’s [the husband’s] talking about.”

We’d like to hope that Keyshawn is telling the truth but… what do you think really happened?

Hit the flip for more photos of the folks involved in this messy business…

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#NOJusticeNOPeace: J.Cole Uses David Letterman Performance To Promote Justice For Police Brutality As “Die-Ins” Continue Across The World [Video+Photos]

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J.Cole Performs “Be Free” Dedication To Mike Brown On David Letterman Show

As some continue to remain skeptical about whether or not this generation is capable of consistently fighting for change, young people throughout the world are continuing to come together in support of the fight for justice against the police war on black lives.

Among the many displays of support worldwide this week, multiple U.S. & International media outlets reported that at least 76 people were arrested in London following a die-in and peaceful protest at the Westfield Shopping Center:

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No stranger to using his celebrity to bring awareness to social issues in the black community, talented Roc Nation/Dreamville lyricist J.Cole shocked fans yet again last night when he used his appearance on “The Late Show with David Letterman” to promote justice against police brutality. Peep page 2 for the video of his performance and more pics from the die-ins across the world.

Lionel Richie’s 16-Year-Old Daughter Lands Modeling Contract

ChitChatter: Brandy Confirms Her Return To BET’s ‘The Game’ & Says ‘Love Is Unconditional’ [Video]

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Love remains…”

Brandy’s “The Brandy Blog” Interview

Brandy recently sat down with Vaughn Alvarez of “The Brandy Blog” about her personal life and her return to BET’s “The Game.”

On her love life:
“I know for a fact that love really is unconditional, I think we say that but we don’t really understand the true meaning of it. Love remains through everything, through it all. Through anger, pain, dishonesty, failure, angry words. Love remains. I am learning everyday to accept that it’s okay to love someone regardless if your together or not, friends or not, you know whatever the situation is just being ok with the fact that love is going to chill regardless.”

Check out the full video below.

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Freida Pinto Is On The Market! Ends Six Year Relationship

Congratulations! Zoe Saldana Gives Birth To Twins!

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Zoe Saldana Gives Birth

Zoe Saldana is officially a mother of two.

InTouch Weekly reports:

Zoe Saldana is a mom! According to a new report, the 36-year-old gave birth to twins in an LA hospital on Monday, Dec. 8!

The babies are the first children for the actress and her husband, artist Marco Perego.

“Zoe and Marco are delighted, Zoe has been ready to drop for some time and they are both ecstatic to be meeting the twins,” a friend of the couple says.

“This is a dream come true for both of them and they are absolutely delighted. They have been looking forward [to] this day for the last nine months. Both want a big family so this is the start.”

In early October, the ‘Star Trek’ beauty confirmed she was expecting twins when a reporter asked her if she planned on dressing up for Halloween. She replied, “I might. I might need three costumes.”

She has said she hopes to have at least “two or three” kids.

“Or four or five! I don’t care. They’re just so delicious,” she gushed.

“I love the anxiety, the pressure of the loud room full of yapping kids. But I’m a kid myself. I get along very well with animals and children. I dig them. I get them. They make perfect sense to me. A child speaks more sense than an adult half of the time.”

Congrats Zoe!

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Some Swirly Family Preciousness: Halle Berry And Olivier Martinez Do A Little Holiday Shopping With Baby Maceo

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*EXCLUSIVE* Halle Berry goes Christmas shopping with Olivier Martinez and Maceo

Daddy duty looks good on Olivier Martinez.

Halle Berry Spotted Holiday Shopping With Her Husband Olivier Martinez And Their Son

Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot.  The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo.  After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels.

Halle Berry was spotted with her hubby Olivier Martinez and their son Maceo shopping at Michael’s after a visit to the chiropractor. Looks like she wasn’t so happy after she spotted the paparazzi! She really hates photographers, doesn’t she!?

Check out more photos below:

Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. *EXCLUSIVE* Halle Berry goes Christmas shopping with Olivier Martinez and Maceo Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels. Halle Berry visits the chiropractor after suffering a tiny accident recently, when she swiped a yellow pole while trying to find a parking spot. The actress was accompanied by her husband, Olivier Martinez and their adorable son, Maceo. After Halle's finished up at the chiropractor's, the family-of-three went shopping at Michaels.

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Stay Safe: 15 Random Things That Kill People Every Year

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15 Random Things That Kill People Every Year

You shouldn’t go through life being scared of everything you see. However, it’s pretty easy to get killed by some random mishap. Here are some random things that kill dozens of people every year. Are they dumb or unlucky? You decide.

Dear Bossip: I Think My New Boyfriend Is Bi or Gay, But He Denies It

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Dear Bossip,

I’ve been reading your “Dear Bossip” column for a few weeks now, and I finally have the courage to reach out to you for some advice.

I’ve met a seemingly great guy a little over three months ago, and we’ve been in a relationship for nearly three weeks. He’s in the Navy as a medic, and he owns his own home and seems to have a pretty stable life. This was attractive to me because I saw maturity and a sense of security especially since he’s so young. He’s only 24 and I’m 25 years old, and he’s great.

He takes me out. He bought me an expensive birthday gift and other gifts on the side. He doesn’t pressure me about sex, and he is comfortable about waiting six months for our first time. In fact, I was secretly thinking that 4 months would be long enough.

But, one day we were on the subject and he said he would imagine a girl of my caliber making him wait 6 months. I haven’t had sex in a year and a half, and the last guy was my ex of 6 years. So, I don’t care about waiting that long. It did kind of strike me as weird that he was willing to wait that long. On top of all that, he’s attentive, caring, and even makes me laugh.

Initially, he asked me to be his girlfriend on our second date and I thought that was weird. But, that’s not the weirdest thing about him. One night, we were drinking moonshine (that stuff is 100 proof) and got f’d up!  He drank way more than me and he even popped a Xanax. So, I took this opportunity to test his sexuality. It’s important for me to be confident in my partner’s sexuality and to know that he only wants women!

But, anyways, I started playing with his a** to get a reaction, but his reaction wasn’t what I wanted. He actually let me play with it! I was rubbing his cheeks, making them clap, even pretending that my finger was going to go in his a**hole. He just stayed back and kind of laughed it off. He barely resisted, if he resisted at all. He was smoking a cigarette and set it down, and at one point he even adjusted himself for me to have better access to his crack!

I was alarmed and also not in my right mind completely, so I decided to give up for the night. When I woke up at his place the next morning it was all that I could think about! I couldn’t shake it! That morning I put this theory of playing with his a** to the test again. He was on his computer and was stretched out on his stomach. So, I thought this was the perfect opportunity to play with his a** while he was sober.

So, I pulled down his pants and smacked it, rubbed it, and even put my finger in his crack! (I needed a serious reaction at this point) He did nothing!!! I even put my finger to his nose and he said it smelled like booty, like it didn’t even phase him! So, I decided to have a serious conversation with him about what took place that night.

I asked him if was he bisexual, and did he like foreign objects in his a**, or did he prefer to be penetrated by a male? Then, he asked me was I really questioning his “manhood,” and I responded with, “Did you really let me play with your a** crack?”

I did try to give him the benefit of the doubt since he was f’d up on drugs, but now he was sober! So, I continued to ask him and he wouldn’t give me straight answer at first. He eventually said he wasn’t gay or bisexual. I asked him why he let me do all of those things to his butt, and he said because he knew I was going to do it anyways even if he didn’t like it. I told him that if he was bisexual or gay that it was okay, and that I needed to know. He continued to say he wasn’t either.

I’m not going to lie, I continued to do my research. So, I went on the prowl for gay adult movies in his phone and laptop internet history and didn’t see any, but straight adult rated movies. He admitted to watching adult rated movies 3-4 a week (I think it’s more), but even with that I’m uncomfortable with because of how I was raised (I’m not saying I’m a saint. It’s just something that stuck with me). Is my too-good-to-be-true dude gay? I know you’ll give it to me straight and that’s all I’m asking for! – Is My Good Dude Gay

Dear Ms. Is My Good Dude Gay,

Ma’am, if you have to ask, then get out of this relationship. If you are uncomfortable and you’re not sure, then get out of this relationship. If you are questioning his sexuality 3 weeks in, then get out of this relationship. If his extra-curricular activity of watching adult rated movies is too much for you, then get out of this relationship.

I swear you all make these things more difficult than they have to be. It’s not that difficult. It’s not that hard. End it, get out of the relationship, and move on with your life. Why stay in a relationship and you are questioning his sexuality, and you don’t feel comfortable? Why stay with someone and they enjoy watching adult rated movies way more than you would like, and it doesn’t sit well with you? I swear I don’t get it. If you see potential signs this early in your relationship, and you’ve addressed them, but you still do not feel comfortable or at ease, then get the hell out!

Some of you will stay in these relationships with the questions, speculations, and concerns in the back of your head, and won’t say anything, and every little thing your man does you question it, and become concerned with, or, you start trying to justify it, and dismissing it. Stop it! Stop all these games, and creating drama for yourselves. Who has time to be going through all this madness when you clearly don’t feel that your man is straight.

If you suspect him of being gay, and you’ve played in his a** while he was drunk and sober, then I am sure you are not the first woman who has. I’ve addressed this issue many times, and I will say it again, many men enjoy having their salads tossed and they enjoy anal play. This particular area of the man’s body is an erogenous zone. You can look it up online, and read some books on the subject. It’s sensual to a man, and some men really enjoy it, while others do not.

Does this mean that your man is gay? No! When you questioned him and he told you that he was neither gay or bisexual, and you don’t believe him, then get out of the relationship. You snooped through his history on his phone and laptop and did not find any gay or bisexual adult themed movies, but a lot of straight adult themed movies. So, now what? That is not a signifier if he is heterosexual or gay, or bisexual. I know many gay and bisexual men who prefer straight themed adult movies.

So, I recommend that you ask him if he enjoys anal play from a woman, and why. Ask him if he has ever had his salad tossed by a woman or a man. Ask him if he has ever allowed a woman to put her fingers inside him, and if he enjoyed it. Ask him to tell you what he enjoys sexually, and what he finds pleasuring. Ask him if he would consider allowing you to put on a strap-on and penetrating him. But, at this point, he may either tell you no to all of these questions because he now knows that you are suspicious of his manhood. Or, he may be honest and tell you the truth.

Again. Not all anal play for men does not equate to him being gay or bisexual. The area and region between a man’s legs, and beneath his ball sac, and into his anal area are erogenous zones. Touching, grazing, licking, and caressing these areas gives tremendous pleasure to a man, and a lot of men will allow a woman to play in these areas. Some men won’t.

If it bothers you that he lets you play in his a**, and you are uncomfortable, and you’re questioning his sexuality. Then, please get out of the relationship. If you are not satisfied with his answers, and he doesn’t make you feel comfortable with his answers, then get out of this relationship. Why spend another month, or several months wondering and questioning his sexuality every time you’re together, or he’s away. Save yourself the headache, the drama, and the anxiety. It’s not worth it. – Terrance Dean

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